Saturday, November 8, 2008

A new chapter

Has it really been more than a month since we last posted?

My first reaction on realizing this is how could that be? It doesn't feel like it has been anywhere near that long.

But I guess we have been kind of, um, busy... :)

If I think about it for a moment, I realize that I can't easily define in my mind how long ago that last post was written. On one hand it feels like it was just yesterday, while on the other it feels incredibly distant, as if it were a lifetime ago.

At the time of that last post, our adventures with Odysseus and Penelope had consisted of online interaction and two amazing weeks of vacation together. When early on in those adventures we found ourselves having quite a bit of fun and becoming closer very quickly, all of us began to wonder (and discuss at length late in to the night) what it might be like if we lived nearby...as in walking distance nearby...

Without getting too specific, it just so happened that Athena and I were at a moment in our lives when we were closing one chapter and moving on to the next. And, as luck and fate (for lack of a better word) would have it, we were also in a situation where we were completely flexible as to where this next chapter could begin. And when, after those two amazing weeks of vacation had shown us all that being together in person brought us benefits and connections in areas far beyond the purely physical, we began to pursue the possibility of moving closer in earnest.

Neither Athena or I are the fatalistic type...if anyone is a firm believer in free will and self determination, it is us. That being said though, we have definitely noticed something unusual and amazing about our relationship with O&P, everything either happens or is enabled very easily with them, and this time was no different. So as usual, once we began looking at the specifics of moving, all the pieces of first planning and then actually executing the move (some of them quite complex) proceeded to fall into place with no effort at all.

And so, after seemingly little work on our part, and some amazing help and encouragement from O&P, we are here.

In what has really been a fairly short period of time since that last post and our arrival here, we have all experienced things and grown together in ways we couldn't have imagined beforehand. For the four of us, this is about more than physical exploration and awesome sex late into the night...at the core this is also about exploring each other on many other levels and forging connections intellectually and emotionally. For us, that part is a major component of what makes our physical connections so natural and amazing.

Being so close to each other has enhanced and accelerated this process of exploration and discovery by a dizzying amount at times, but because we more or less had the process down before we arrived, we all expected that is what would happen once we were here. What we didn't expect though, was how difficult it can sometimes be to find ways of simply integrating all of that exploration and discovery into the routine of everyday life. Instant and easy access to one another has definitely presented us with new questions about space, balance, planning, being spontaneous, spending the night, maintaining discretion, and more.

What makes our relationship so amazing is the way in which we relate with each other and work through questions, ideas and concerns that come up. Among the four of us we have established a level of honesty, trust, understanding and respect that allows us to comfortably and enjoyably discuss and experience anything that is on our minds. No worries, no stress, no boundaries. Everything we do is completely natural and nothing is off limits.

All of this is exhilarating, hot, sexy, fun, enlightening, intense, and completely amazing.

I couldn't possibly imagine anywhere I would rather be.

3 comments:

dirtyboy said...

I'm pleased to hear that it's working out so well, and it's lovely to finally hear a little more about this, as it's been so quiet on both your blogs (understandably so, I think). I'm personally very curious how this works on a practical basis now that you live close by - are you finding yourselves spending more time alone with each others' partner? Is it mostly group activity? How does it work? I'm looking forward to finding out more, as I've always been insatiably curious about such things ;)

The Daree (or "Dee") said...

How very exciting. I think you guys have achieved a goal many of us seek to no avail...true friends with benefits. It is lovely to hear news from you four!

Anonymous said...

Now I'm imagining a Big Love style house, with joined backyards. :)